Tuesday, January 19, 2010

30 Things Every Woman Should Know





As women, we are expected (and put a lot of pressure on ourselves) to do many things well. Some things come easier than others and often times a crash-course here or there is all that one needs to acquire the extra skills. Maybe you'd love know how to make the perfect bed? Perhaps you wish you could arrange flowers like the pros or you may just be wondering how to break open and enjoy a delicious lobster.

According to Martha Stewart, there are 30 things that everyone should know. Since this blog's audience is women-only, I changed the post title accordingly. I thought I'd post my favorite 5 for you and you can check out the other 25 on Martha's website. I love lists like this, they force me to brush up on my skills. I hope you will find them equally beneficial. :) *All how-to content below from MarthaStewart.com.

HOW TO:





















1. Make a Bed- Begin with a good-quality mattress and box spring. Protect the mattress with a cotton cover; Martha adds a wool pad. 

Unless you're using a fitted sheet, make hospital corners with the bottom sheet, starting at the bed's head: Drape the sheet evenly over the bed, leaving about 1 foot of fabric hanging beyond the head. Stand beside the bed, toward its center, and pick up a side hem. Pull the hem toward you into a taut crease, then raise the creased section over the mattress so the sheet makes a triangular tent over the bed. With your other hand, smooth the sheet flat along the mattress's side. Then fold the creased section down over the side, and tuck the sheet snugly under the mattress. Repeat the process at the foot and other side of the bed.


Add the top sheet, and make hospital corners at the bed's foot.

Leave the sides untucked for easier sleeping. Finish with a blanket, quilt, or down comforter.

*If you are a visual person like me, click HERE for Martha's video on how to properly make a bed





















2. Eat a Lobster- To get the most meat with the least effort, have nutcrackers and small forks or picks on hand. (Get even more out of your lobster by using a rolling pin to ease the meat out of each of the eight legs. Apply pressure from tip to base.) Some people enjoy the green liver, or tomalley, from the lobster's carapace, or body; mix it with lemon juice or butter and spread it on crackers.

Remove lobster from pot with tongs; let cool. If you like, snip the tips of claws and let liquid drain out. Remove rubber bands. Twist claws with their knuckles from the body. Separate knuckles from claws. Crack knuckles open; remove meat.


  • Grasp "thumb" and bend it back to snap it off.
  • Crack claw in half; remove meat.
  • Pull off legs. Twist tail from the joint where it meets the body.
  • Pull off tail fins. Bend tail backward to crack off end of shell.
  • Use your fingers to push tail meat out opposite side; remove with fork.
* Click the link for Step-by-Step photos on how to eat a lobster.



















3. Arrange Flowers- Flower arranging is an art, but the art is easy to master when you follow a few simple techniques. This technique, courtesy of wedding designer Karen Bussen, uses kale, ranunculus, viburnum, and lamb's ear to create an elegant and unforgettable arrangement.



Tools and Materials

Ribbon
Vase
Clippers
Floral food
Floral knife
Clear rubber bands
Kale
Ranunculus
Viburnum
Lamb's ear


Arranging Flowers How-To


  • Embellish a vase with wide double-satin ribbon. Cut with pinking shears and secure using double-sided tape. Wrap a contrasting narrow ribbon over first ribbon. Secure with a simple knot and clip ends at angles.
  • Fill a vase with water and add floral food; set aside. Start with three to four stalks of kale to create a basic structure. Add clusters of viburnum and ranunculus; secure flowers with rubber band.
  • Create a collar with lamb's ear so it drapes over vase; secure with rubber band.
  • Trim stems short enough to be hidden by ribbon on vase. Place flowers in vase.





















4. Cooking a Turkey

GETTING STARTED

Have ready the following equipment:


Large, heavy roasting pan (not nonstick)
Roasting rack (V-shaped or flat)
Toothpicks or small metal skewers
17-inch square of four-ply cheesecloth
Kitchen twine

Pastry brush
Instant-read thermometer
Fat separator

Remove giblets from the body and neck cavities, and reserve them; you can make Giblet Stock while the turkey is roasting.

Rinse the turkey under cool running water, and pat it dry with paper towels. Tuck the wing tips under the body to prevent them from burning.

STUFFING THE BIRD

Insert the stuffing just before the turkey goes into the oven; never do it ahead of time. And don't pack it too tightly, as the stuffing won't cook evenly and bacteria may grow; also, don't forget to stuff the neck cavity.

SECURING THE NECK FLAP
Pull the flap of skin at the neck down, and use toothpicks or small metal skewers to fasten it.
TRUSSING

Pull the legs together loosely, and tie them with kitchen string; a bow will be easy to untie later. Any kind of sturdy white string or twine will do, as long as it's made of cotton, not polyester (which may melt in the oven's heat). Rub the turkey with butter, and season it with salt and pepper.

THE BASTING PROCESS

Cover the turkey with cheesecloth that has been soaking in butter and wine; the cloth should cover the breast and part of the leg area. Make sure the cheesecloth never dries out or comes into contact with the inside walls of the oven; in either situation, it may ignite.

Every 30 minutes, use a pastry brush (better than a bulb baster) to baste the cheesecloth and exposed area of the turkey with the butter-and-wine mixture. (The turkey pictured here is out of the oven, but basting should be done in the oven and as quickly as possible, so the oven temperature doesn't drop.) Watch the pan juices; if they are in danger of overflowing, spoon them out and reserve them for the gravy.

After the third hour of cooking, take the turkey out of the oven. Carefully remove the cheesecloth, which will have turned quite brown, and discard it. Baste the turkey with pan juices, taking care not to tear the skin, and return it to the oven

TEMPERATURE TAKING

After the fourth hour of cooking, insert an instant-read thermometer into the thickest part of the thigh (if you poke a bone, try again); when the temperature reaches 180 degrees, the bird is ready.

CARVING

Use a thin-bladed, flexible carbon-steel knife to carve the meat into thin slices.

















5. Pack a Suitcase- There are a few ways you can pack efficiently for your next trip. Start by putting your shoes on the bottom of your suitcase. Shoe bags help protect your shoes from the stress of travel. Place jeans on top of the shoes, followed by underwear and socks. Buy several pairs of identical socks; this way, if a single sock gets lost, you'll have another to match. Next, pack sweaters of different weights in large, resealable bags. Shirts and pants go in last; place them inside garment bags (your dry cleaner should be able to supply you with extra bags) and fold them on top of the suitcase. Don't forget to include a sewing repair kit, books, and perhaps a portable stereo, an electronic game, or other entertaining items.



If you haven't got a chance to read them, here are some of my previous travel tips which share some great info on how to make your life much easier while preparing for your next trip, and what you should never leave home without.

What do YOU believe is one of the most important things a WOMAN should know how to do? Whether it's on this list or not, I'd love to hear what you think!

Saturday, January 16, 2010

Celebrity Encounter?




Have you every had a celebrity run-in? Perhaps you were able to score the autograph of a well respected Author, your favorite Movie star or even the president? I got thinking about this after reading a Facebook post from my friend who was in Utah skiing for the week. She ran into Owen Wilson but only wished she had camera on hand. Has that happened to you before?

I'm not a celebrity tabloid magazine junkie and I don't get stars in my eyes while in L.A. hoping to run into anyone but if it happens, it happens. I really just see celebrities as entertainers. They are people just like us with similar goals pertaining to family,  love and staying fit. They are however out of reach and rare to see which makes such an occasion all the more exciting for those that get the chance.

I thought it would be fun to get everyone to leave a comment with who they've spotted and where. Were you an audience member on the Oprah show? Did you bump into a Celebrity on vacation or while Downtown in your own city? I would love to hear your stories.

To make it fair, I thought I'd share my story. Six years ago, the day after my birthday, my father and I were hanging out in downtown Toronto's Distillery District. They host a lot of fun events there and have some cute shops and restaurants too. We happened to be grabbing a vegetarian lunch (not my usual fare but it looked yummy nonetheless) when over my dad's shoulder I saw Woody Harrelson. He was doing an interview with a woman about one of his movies. Let me also say that it is not uncommon to bump into movie stars in Toronto. It is such a large city, a mini New York if you will, and since they host the Toronto International Film Festival in September every year it's almost inevitable. Many friends of mine have bumped into Celebrities in cafes, night clubs and even seen them just walking down the street.

Okay, back to my story. I walked over to listen to the interview and a few other people had started to a walk over too at this point. I wasn't entirely sure if it was him or not. His interview came to an end and when I realized it was him I asked if he would mind getting a really quick photo since I had my camera on hand and it was my birthday. He smiled, was very sweet and agreed to do so. So, no Brad Pitt or Heidi Klum, but still fun for me. I was surprised that I even still had this picture after all these years, but it was in my miscellaneous folder. Here is our photo together below that my father snapped of us-not my best photo-but here it is.





I almost forgot, I used to attend high school with Canadian cutie Ryan Gossling, the lead actor from the popular love story: The Notebook, Fracture, Remember the Titans, Murder by Numbers, etc. At that time he was a star in the making and sat 2 seats behind me in our world religions class. He was actually two grades behind me, but the class could be taken anytime from grade 10-12.

He began his career in the Mickey Mouse Club. During highschool he was on various Disney shows and small tv series'. Whenever I see his movies now, it's so funny to think that we were in the same class. He was always very quiet, down to earth, reserved, intelligent and a good student. It's probably no surprise that many girls in his grade had a huge crush on him even back then.






How about you?

Just a reminder, if you didn't see our last post for a  DECOR GIVEAWAY , be sure to click the link and enter for your chance to win a pretty accent pillow! Contest runs for just a few more days.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

*GIVEAWAY* Pretty Pillows!


I hope you are all having a fabulous week so far! As promised, today is our first giveaway for 2010. I've got a fantastic prize from the great people over at AllModern, which is just one of CSN Stores' 200+ online retailers. You can find everything from the perfect bar stool(s) to the cutest designer pet beds!

Here's a fun way to get a head start on your spring decorating. One lucky winner will get to choose an accent pillow worth up to $50! I've listed some of my favorites in that price point below and they have 275 for you to choose from HERE!


***THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED***


PRETTY PILLOWS

1. Bliss Living Madison Pillow 














 2.  Bliss Living Shadow Purple Pillow













 
















7. Bliss Living Tangiers Pillow (Green or Brown)













8. Glenna Jean Mackenzie Rectangular Stripe Pillow 








9. Inhabit Estrella Studio Pillow in Mineral














10. Inhabit Balance Studio Pillow














11. Unison Larch Organic Pillow (Gray)














12. Unison Square Juniper Pillow in Aqua/Yellow















13. Dwell Studio Sparrow Boudoir Pillow in Lilac








  





14. DwellStudio Chocolate Dots Boudoir Pillow














15.  Glenna Jean McKenzie Black Dot Pillow





















16. Working Class Studio Fern Outdoor Pillow
















  • THE PRIZE:  One 'All Modern' accent pillow for up to $50 USD value per website pricing.
  • HOW TO ENTER:  Add yourself as a follower of this blog OR create a link back to this post from your blog to be eligible. Also, please leave a comment below to tell us which pillow you would choose and where you would use it in your home!
  • GIVEAWAY CLOSES: Wednesday January.20th at Midnight EST
  • NUMBER OF WINNERS: One
  • RULES: One comment per person please. The winner will be selected using random.org and announced next Thursday!
  • SHIPPING TO: United States and Canada ONLY

A big THANK YOU goes out to our friends at CSN Stores for offering such a wonderful prize for our first Classy and Fabulous giveaway of the year. Many more of these great pillows can be found at AllModern where you'll also discover some of their beautiful bedding and luxurious lighting too!

Good Luck Ladies!

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

1-Year Blogiversary & 100th Post!




Wow! One full year already? Well, you know what they say, "Time flies when you're having fun!".

I have SO enjoyed receiving all of your questions, reading your comments and meeting all of you here in the blogosphere! As I mentioned in last week's post, we now have readers in 87 countries and I love that I can reach (and hopefully inspire) so many of you from this little blog of mine.

Not only is today exactly one year from the day I began blogging, but it's also our 100th Post! Wow, I had a lot to say, didn't I? As promised in my post on my 2010 goals, I hope to bring that number to over 250 this year. Look out blog world! ;)

I've decided to celebrate with a big cupcake! I have a favorite little shop named 'Sweet' close to my house so that is where I'll pick up my delicious, celebratory banana cupcake treat. YUM! They have some of the best tart yogurt I've ever tasted too.

This next year will be filled with a lot of fresh, new ideas, inspiring decor, fun fashion and the goods on modern manners and everyday etiquette as you all have requested and shared on our current blog poll. We will begin having regular giveaways too and will continue to answer your reader requests, so keep those questions coming!

As a way to kick off Year 2 of blogging, tomorrow I'll be posting our very first giveaway of 2010! Be sure to check back and enter for your chance to win, it's a great prize you won't want to miss!

Thank you for following me and checking in each day for the latest and greatest on being a Classy and Fabulous woman!

xoxo

Dreaming of a Tropical Destination?



We've had record cold temperatures here in FL the past two weeks and I'm ready for warmth and sunshine once again! You probably remember reading this post before Christmas. While I didn't get to see any snow (as the weather man seemed to promise), I have  now experienced enough chilliness to last me for the rest of the year! Don't get me wrong, the first few days were an enjoyable, welcome change. I was psyched to pull my scarves and gloves out of the attic and put them to good use. However, after the first week I was wondering how on earth I endured it for so many years before. As you can see, I've turned into a bit of a weather wimp over the past 4 winters. I do realize that some of you experience months of this weather as I used to. God Bless you all and keep warm!

For everyone who is dreaming of pushing past all of this chilly weather and is dying to hop on a plane to somewhere sunny, come enjoy a piece of heaven with me as we mentally transport ourselves to these tropical destinations below. :)

HEAVEN ON EARTH



Ahhh. So peaceful.





This reminds me of our last cruise vacation. I *heart* tropical fish!






Who doesn't love photos from Bora Bora and French Polynesia?
I could lay in this hammock ALL day!



 


Snorkelling in the sunshine followed by an afternoon nap in the above-water hut sounds perfect!








OR Strolling along the beach to watch a stunning sunset.



 

Can you tell I really want to go to Bora Bora?




Perhaps a romantic dinner on the beach?




Untouched and beautiful!





Solitude.


Thanks for traveling with me, I hope these photos will add some warmth to your day!

So far Fiji and Santorini, Greece have been our most favorite and memorable destinations. Here are a few pics below from our September 2006 Honeymoon in Fiji :









                                         Heading to Dinner


                  View of Fiji from our tiny plane





How about you? What is your favorite vacation destination?

Monday, January 11, 2010

Retail Therapy: Are You a Shopaholic?


 

Do you shop for therapy or necessity? In a day and age where there is so much to do, see, buy and become, it isn't surprising that we as North American's purchase tens of thousands of dollars per year in stuff per household. We never actually realize how much we have consumed until it is time to move! 

Why is it that while others have so little we all continue to spend like money is going out of style? Some shop for groceries, which are a necessity. Some shop for Christmas gifts, birthday presents and others just shop to shop. That's right, shopping as a form of entertainment to pass the time. Find out if you are a good shopper or if you are shopping for therapeutic reasons that you may have never even considered before. Shopping is fun, just don't make it all that you do for fun.

Signs that You Might be Shopping for Therapy


1. You shop after you get really disappointed, angry or need a breather. 

There is nothing wrong with going for a nice little window shopping experience now and then. There is a problem when you use it as a way to escape a current situation or reality. Many women in particular shop after a boyfriend has dumped them or they didn't get the promotion they were expecting. Some do it in the form of changing their image such as their appearance (clothes, hair, shoes, accessories) and others just simply buy whatever they see. These items in some way make them feel like they have replaced something that is missing in their life and heart. 

Like food to some people, shopping can act as a comfort. Often afterwards most realize that they never even use or wear these items that hang in their closets with tags. Men are guilty of this too, not just women, and their purchases can be just as expensive, if not more! The midlife crisis comes to mind as we think of flashy sportscars and an older gentleman in one, but younger guys are no different often times. While women generally go for shoes, handbags, clothing and jewelry, men generally go for gadgets, technology, cars and motorcycles. When the initial thrill of the new purchase is over, many are left with a mountain of debt.

2.Shopping for Entertainment.

It's Saturday and you're bored, you call up a friend and go shopping for the afternoon which gets followed up with a dinner and drinks. Does this sound familiar? You intended to just window shop but found that cute pair of heels on sale, a great belt and wandered the mall with a Starbucks' in hand. Then somehow after the shopping is over you are hungry and there isn't anything appealing at home. So, what's a girl to do? Eat out of course, and why not have a special drink to conclude another successful day of good shopping-NOT! 

You need to get a grip and find other forms of entertainment. This is not only costly, but  unhealthy. Why not get in a workout or take a cooking class, do some spring cleaning or spend some time volunteering or honing that new skill you promised to follow through with. Like other forms of entertainment, it allows most to take their mind off any problems and realities that exist. I'm not suggesting that shopping is a sin, nor is getting together as girls do, to have a nice day together. The problem in North America is that this is more often than not the norm, the weekend ritual. I think we are far more educated an interesting than to fill our time with needless, mindless shopping experiences again and again.

3.Searching for a Purpose. Some people truly have never sat down and determined what they want out of life, what their goals are and how to achieve them. Furthermore many are working at a job that does not fulfill them or allow them to be ignited with passion. There is then a longing for purpose in life. Many women are stay-at-home moms and are happy to be, but wonder if there is also another purpose for their life. So begins the next therapy session, shopping for purpose in life. Let's face it, when we clip coupons and look for great deals in the weekly flyers we feel empowered. We often then get it in our mind that we are going to get some great deals and conquer the stores. We now have a purpose, looking for the items on sale! It gives us something to do with our time ,and we experience a sense of reward when we come home with our bargains.Nothing is wrong with coupon clipping, saving money for your family and picking up necessities. When you look for reasons to incorporate more shopping into your day, it is a problem. Now might be a good time to re-evaluate what you want out of life and find a less-costly means of accomplishing that.

Just remember every time you shop, your credit card balance and interest increases, your bank account decreases and you get nothing but a false sense of purpose and happiness. When you pick up each item ask yourself if you really need it or if you simply want it? Next, ask yourself what this item solves and if you can live without it. Most of the items we purchase because they seem like a great deal, or they're the hot new product advertised on TV (think infomercials),  but we never really needed the items to begin with. Think about all the items you bought and have never really used. If you got dumped, shopping might make you feel better for an hour after making your purchases but after that you are still on your own to perhaps think about your current reality.

My goal is to help people in any way that I can. I have certainly been guilty of the first two at some point in time and want to see women in particular excel in life and drop all of the unnecessary things that can often rob us of our dreams, weigh us down and burden us with debt.


Does this describe anyone you know? 

Sunday, January 10, 2010

Reader Request: E-mail Etiquette

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Today's reader request is an anonymous one. It comes from a personal acquaintance who asked me not to share her name. It was sparked by a recent e-mail that she had received from an upset family member. Based on the way the e-mail was written and the fact that so many of us communicate via e-mail vs. the telephone, she asked me if I would write a post on e-mail etiquette.

We all spend a lot of time e-mailing and for many it has become the preferred method of communication. E-mail saves time and often avoids needless chatter in order to be more productive. However, it also is the cause of a lot of grief for many people as e-mail messages can be misconstrued, improperly conveyed or downright rude.

Here are a 12 rules to abide by when e-mailing your colleagues, clients,  friends and family:


E-MAIL ETIQUETTE

1. Never E-mail Using All CAPS- This is read as 'yelling' and is considered very rude.  Treat an e-mail in the same way you would an actual letter. I thought everyone knew this one but I still get emails like this and it's usually just laziness, the person sending it couldn't be bothered to take the caps lock off.

2. Avoid Spamming- Don't spam people that don't know you very well with your "forward messages", be very selective about who you send these to if anyone at all.  What may be important and interesting to you may be incredibly annoying to someone else.

3. Don't 'Reply-all'- If you find yourself receiving an email and you would like to reply; do not reply to a group by hitting the 'reply all' button, rather reply to the individual sender only. This will save embarrassment on both ends and will not annoy all the other recipients or clog up their inbox. What starts off as one e-mail about a particular topic can easily turn into 20 if you get enough people fired up. This often happens with political or highly opinionated e-mails.

4. Say Their Name- When e-mailing anyone, it is considered disrespectful to begin an email without addressing the person you are writing to. If you are replying to a note, that is more acceptable, but addressing the person first by their name is proper. However that first initiated email must be addressed to whom you are sending it. It cannot begin with 'hi', 'hey' or your e-mail content right off the bat. Think of it as a phone call or conversation, you would say hello first before jumping to what you want to tell or ask the other person.

5. Use a Title- Always put a subject in the "subject" line so that the recipients can determine which e-mails to read first. Believe it or not, your e-mail may not be at the top of their 'importance' list. Other pressing e-mail may need to be attended to first so it's best to list it as 'low priority' and include a brief subject such as 'hi' or 'let's catch up!'. Avoid listing an e-mail as high priority unless it is in fact of the utmost importance to the recipient (not you).

6. Use Proper Spelling and Grammar!  With spell check and online dictionaries available today, there is absolutely no excuse for incorrect spelling and poor grammar. It just looks really unprofessional and sloppy regardless of who you are sending it to.

7. Do NOT Forward Chain letters, Junk mail or Warnings-This is annoying to anyone receiving it and a huge time waster! Many of these 'forwarded' emails could potentially contain viruses also, which I can assure your friends, family and colleagues will not appreciate.

8. Privacy is Appreciated- Use the 'Bcc' blind carbon copy feature to send a message to a large group of people who don't necessarily know each other. It protects their email information from others that may not know them and they'll appreciate your discretion too.

9. Use Proper Sentence Structure- Don't lump every sentence into one large paragraph, this is very difficult to read. Treat it as you would any other letter you would write. Make it easy to read. I have a friend who is notorious e-mailing me one really large paragraph which takes more time to read and reply to when wanting to comment or answer questions that were posed.

10. Signing Off- Use a signature that includes your contact information. This is most important with colleagues and or clients so they can easily get in touch with you. I know many people that use this format in their personal e-mail too and I find it helpful. Often they include their address or telephone number and it keeps me from having to look it up, when I need it.

11. Don't Be Confrontational- An e-mail should NEVER be the chosen format of communication when your emotions are running high and you are angry or frustrated with someone. You're liable to write something that you'll regret and can't take back, this is also the fastest way to start a fight.

What's worse is your poorly chosen words and angry 'rant' might then be forwarded to others to read. Regardless of the situation or how badly someone has hurt you, it is best to take some time to cool off, gather your thoughts, write them down and plan out how you'd like to communicate your message in the form of a phone call or face-to-face meeting. It's also never a good time to leave a voicemail message.

The people in your life deserve more than an e-mail and it is considered to be quite rude to send such e-mails to vent and get your point across.

12. Double Check-Take a moment to double check the recipients in your e-mail. Many people I know have sent out an e-mail to the wrong person. This is easy to do if you're typing in the first few letters of the person's name or email. Quite often another name will pop up. I've had this happen twice and both were completely harmless, one actually made it to my hair stylist in error. lol. You never know what information you may providing to the wrong people. Just be careful.

It goes without saying that anything that is confidential, private information should never be shared via e-mail. Personal bank account information, social security numbers and medical history should be avoided by e-mail. This way you can save yourself a lot of hassle and potentially even identity theft.

Want more etiquette posts? Here are a few more:






Have you had any personal experiences with those that are unaware of e-mail etiquette? Share with us, you can always leave an anonymous response.